I don’t even know where to begin when it comes to the subject of comparison so I will just start with this quote I love.
Blogging and social media as a whole is a tricky thing. When you see a bloggers Instagram or Blog you are seeing probably 30% of their real life and I don’t blame any of them for not showing 100% of their life on social media because I do believe some personal and special moments should stay private. But when you look at our social media you are literally looking at a highlight reel. Of course I have so much fun shooting projects, working with brands and making my blog/instagram look fun and cool but that isn’t my entire life.
My life isn’t that exciting haha. I am a full time student, Air Force wife and dog momma. I spend M-F working on classes and taking care of my dog duke. So there’s not much to see there! On the weekends is when I shoot because my husband is my photog and during the week he is busier than ever. So 90% of my instgram posts or blog posts are happening on the weekend.
I don’t “Brunch” “Shop the sales” “Coffee Dates” and whatever else you can think of all day long 24/7. To be honest with you when the whole Nordstrom sale was happening you didn’t hear a thing about it from me and sorry if you were hoping to! But honestly I have just never been one to shop there. I’ve never bought expensive things and when I say expensive I literally mean like $40 and up haha. I’ve always been that way! I wouldn’t say I’m cheap at all but like forever 21 is my jam. It’s nothing against anyone who shops there because everyone got really really cute things but I didn’t even know the sale was happening until people posted about it! lol Sometimes I feel like I’m so out of the loop with normal blogger things. But I didn’t want to pretend like I knew what I was doing or saying when it came to that sale so I just stayed hush hush. lol
My goal in blogging has ALWAYS been to just help other ladies with anything I can. I don’t have the fanciest clothes, nicest home, always have my nails done (rarely) ETC. But I want to help where I can! My life is pretty hectic sometimes. Wondering when we are going to be moving for my husbands job (Military spouses can feel me on that), constant Vet appointments for Duke and the stress of school and just life is a lot sometimes.
So to look at someones Instagram and think you see everything about them couldn’t be further from the truth. Of course those are definite moments in their life but that’s not everything. I find myself comparing myself to others all the time! That’s normal but it’s not healthy. You have to realize what you have and all the amazing blessings you have in your life and be grateful for those. Please don’t compare your beautiful self to strangers on the internet.
Another quick thing I want to mention is relationships on social media. Once again HIGHLIGHT REEL. No relationship is perfect. My husband and I are best friends and we honestly do have a great time with each other 99% of the time but want to know what that 1% is when we don’t? Blog pictures! haha
- We are usually both hungry (hangry) when we shoot because it’s early.
- I feel a level of stress because I want my work to look great because I want the company I’m working with to know how hard I tried.
- My husband loves to support me in my dreams but let’s be honest waking up at 8 am on his day off to go take pics in AZ weather doesn’t necessarily get him pumped for the weekend haha.
So in that regard please don’t compare your relationship to another that you see online. You may see someones husband buying them flowers every freaking other day or taking them on fancy trips but everyone’s different and people only show the best parts about their relationship. There’s nothing more unhealthy than having expectations for your boyfriend or spouse that they are unaware of. That’s what us girls like to call a “Test” and its a horrible horrible idea. The guys will fail 10/10 times. Trust me I’m guilty of it and I’ve learned my lesson. haha
So I’ll just wrap this up with this quote ..
“You need to ignore what everyone else is doing and achieving. Your life is about breaking your own limits and outgrowing yourself to live your best life. You are not in competition with anyone else. Plan to outdo your past, not other people.”